The death of a loved family member or friend will cause a huge amount of pain, stress and anguish for all concerned. Many people will wish for the opportunity to say a few final words and a eulogy goes a long way to not only helping you to do this but also enabling you to voice your fondest memories of the deceased for all present to share. It is also an incredibly daunting task; one which I have experienced firsthand and one which I was proud to have completed.
A colleague of mine gave me the strength to write and speak a eulogy at my father’s funeral; he simply said: “You will never have the opportunity to do this again. If you try and can’t continue then have someone stand beside you to take over if necessary. Yet, if you can get all the way through then you will always remember that moment. It may go some way to easing the pain”.
Speaking the eulogy did allow some process towards easing the pain of losing my father. It also gave me the self-
Quote: “Lifeboat line operations manager John Hayes said they had found the occasion in the packed church very moving. He said: ‘Mr Potton’s son read out a eulogy to his Dad that was quite amazing. It was very impressive considering the stress he must be under… But his son was very impressive. He managed to hold himself together but he was very emotional and what he said was one of the best eulogies I have ever heard. ”
The Gazette. Saturday.
“I would like you all to take a moment and think of a memory of my father, a memory that will make you smile. Hold that memory in your mind and feel the warmth of that happy moment. Now close your eyes… and smile… We are not smiling for what I have said. We are not smiling for this ceremony or for this Church. We are smiling to let my father know that wherever he is that we will always cherish and remember him. We are blessed to have been loved and cared for by him and proud to have known him.”
Stephen Potton’s Funeral.
Make sure that you have a family member, friend or colleague (preferably someone a little more removed from the situation) who has also learned your eulogy and will stand beside you to take over should you be unable to continue.